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Act I: The Persona

The full name is Giana Arestia, but you can call me Gian or Ares for short. My pronounce is she/her, but fuck pronounce, you can refer to me as anything you want except ‘Dek’. Another variation of nicknames is always welcomed, of course. But promise me to make it beautiful, okay?Saya nggak pandai deskripsikan diri. Kebanyakan personaliti sehari-hari mengikuti vibe orang yang interaksi. But still, I’m a person with sense, feeling, and mood. This three domains took a big scale on how I perceive world. My mood and state of mind really affects how I behave—it’s almost like I have three contradictory modes; baby, intimidating, and nurturing. In baby mode they said I’m the cutest–I love to act adorable, say and do cute things–but also super clingy and bubbly, easily cranky. On the other hand, in an intimidating, bossy mode, I will only say and do things that I want. The energy that I have is super dominant which somehow sounds rude and wild. And in nurturing mode, well, let’s say she’s the bridge between the baby and the boss. Tenang, saya nggak punya DID atau kepribadian ganda kok. Those are just my sides. Pasti akan ketemu tiga-tiganya di saat bersamaan karena mereka itu satu kesatuan, bukan bagian-bagian yang terpisah.I also wouldn’t say I could read your mind—of course, not. This thing called the mind reader only exists in fantasy, right?—but sometimes, it’s not that hard to sense people’s vibe. I watch and read. They say I'm the observer. Saya lihat cara kamu interaksi, cara kamu typing, cara kamu present yourself, saya lihat. Lalu saya baca based on my experience. Karena jujur aja, beberapa orang memang mudah ditebak dan sesuatu yang datangnya dari hati, biasanya juga mudah dikenali. So it’s so much better for you to be yourself. Di dunia ini nggak ada yang sempurna, seberapapun besar kita berusaha, the imperfectness will always be shown. And I like it better than the fake perfect. Being raw and honest is dazzling and tempting, isn’t it?Karena saya juga nggak sempurna, saya juga banyak kurangnya, saya juga punya hal-hal yang perlu diperbaiki. Jadi mari kita jadi raw and honest together, shall we?Saya INFP. Artinya ada banyak banget hal-hal random dan aneh yang saya pikirkan. Kalau kita cukup dekat dan reaksimu bikin saya nyaman, akan ada banyak pertanyaan dan pernyataan aneh yang saya lontarkan. Dan karena saya introvert, energi saya gampang habis kalau seharian beraktivitas. Jam tidur saya sudah nggak jauh beda dari jam tidur bayi alias jam 10 malam sudah harus rebahan menuju tidur supaya besok paginya nggak kurang istirahat. Tapi kadang saya begadang juga kok, tergantung kondisi juga seperti apa. Lalu kalau sudah capek banget, saya biasanya balas chat dengan kirim VN. I hope you don’t mind this habit of mine. You don’t have to do the same, kok. Just telling you beforehand.Buat astrologi, sun saya Scorpio, moon saya Leo, rising saya Virgo. And yes, the juggling battle is real. Akan ada masa dimana saya unstable, tapi jangan terlalu khawatir, ya? Saya masih berprogres dan bertumbuh setiap hari and of course, I'm falling from time to time. Tapi sekarang saya sudah punya keyakinan kalau semuanya akan baik-baik aja. Jadi kalau lagi kelihatan nggak oke, tolong kasih banyak pengertian dan perhatian ya? Since gentleness is, actually, a key for me to get back to myself.My main three love languages are words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time. You give me these three and all of my heart is yours. Anaknya gampang baper—a feeler, remember?—jadi nggak susah bikin saya senang. Saya juga senang kasih hal-hal kecil buat orang lain, meski kebanyakan saya kasih tulisan. I have no talent in other form than write, jadi hadiahnya kalau nggak puisi, short story, atau prosa. Juga barang, kalau saya tahu kamu lagi perlu dan ingin apa.I don’t really share what’s mine. It’s not really a healthy trait, I know, but I can’t help to keep everything mine to mine only. Jadi kebayang ya, saya orangnya bisa seposesif dan secemburuan apa? Of course I won’t be crazy and ask you to not have any life outside me—oh, please have a life, build your own dream, have an ambition to chase—but let me inside that world too. Let me be involved in your life. Let me be part of it.Kalau pacaran, saya sukanya seluruh dunia tau kalau kita punya masing-masing. My style of PDA is not that heavy. Lebih banyak sub-tweet, lebih banyak ngomongin kamu tanpa kamu tau. Kadang kalau perasaan saya sebesar dunia, saya banyak menulis tentang kamu. Edit-edit lucu juga kadang saya lakuin kalau saya mau. Karena saya juga lebih seringnya mampu buat hubungan yang low-maintenance (maaf, pekerja ini kadang suka AFK diculik kerjaan), jadi memang lebih suka melakukan hal-hal kecil yang meaningfull ketimbang merayakan kita besar-besaran (oh I still love doing celebration kalau moment-nya ada), like I said before. But please keep in mind that the concept of a low-maintenance relationship in my mind is not included in the scale of ignorance. Hubungannya dirawat lowkey dan santai, bukan nggak dirawat sama sekali.I also appreciate any balanced aspect in everything. Ketika kita bertemu, saya selalu berusaha memperlakukanmu seperti saya ingin diperlakukan; with honor, respect, and as human as possible who have a room to grow. Saya hampir selalu bisa memahami semua situasi sembari saya menghargai batasan yang saya punya. Pun ketika ada hal-hal yang nggak cocok atau nggak nyaman, saya usahakan untuk bisa menyampaikan dengan baik. Bukan untuk menghakimi atau mencari pembenaran, tapi sebagai bagian dari usaha saya untuk menjadikan semua hubungan dengan manusia lain menjadi lebih baik. And I expect nothing less than that from any person I meet in every realm I live. Sama-sama is a word that I cherish the most.And I think that’s a-not-really-short-brief about me. Hope it’s still entertaining you at the very last sentence.P.s. I usually use Cheng Xiao as a face-claim but I will use whoever I want based on my mood (wink)

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Act II: The Preference

These are things that probably can turn me on:

The almighty deep talks.
As a scorpio, I love to know someone's depth. Saya nggak begitu pintar bikin percakapan basa-basi, biasanya endingnya selalu garing dan awkward. Tapi saya selalu penasaran sama cara kamu berpikir, cara kamu merasa, cara kamu melihat dunia. What moves you. What scare you. And so on.
Random, unexpected conversations.
Saya senang deep-talks, tapi bukan berarti harus 24/7 bahas bahasan berat. Anaknya bisa random banget, kok. Kayak tiba-tiba nanya kenapa langit warnanya biru, atau ngajak ngebayangin kalau air laut bukan air tapi susu coklat, atau tiba-tiba teriak pengen disayang pacar. Sometimes I like to lighten up the mood by doing something silly or just randomly throw some weird statement.

Writing.
In real life, I talk fast. Gian typo waktu ngomong udah jadi kayak my middle name saking seringnya. My sense also feels super sensitive but numb at the same time. Makanya saya lebih senang menulis karena things seem slower when I write. Menulis juga jadi wadah pelepasan saya waktu penat. Dan nggak melulu harus jadi suatu karya. Tweeting 24/7 is also the part of my writing. But in a very good mood, I write fanfiction and poem.
A catchy music and strong lyric.
My music range is quite wide. Saya denger K-Pop, mostly sama lagu-lagu dan artis yang lagi hits, tapi saya Melody (fansnya BTOB), juga dengerin lagunya Dean, DPR Ian, —though I couldn't dare to call myself as a TRBL or Dreamer sih. Saya lebih keep up lagu GG daripada BG karena lebih mudah diikuti secara vokal. Saya Swifties (fans nya Taylor Swift, a hardcore one) and I think I rely my life too much on her lyrics. Saya juga denger lagu klasik, lagu barat 90-2000an, lagu pop indo, beberapa lagu jazz, rock, emo, swing, akustik, etc. Intinya selama lagunya enak, saya dengar.
A good book, mesmerizing art, and beautiful scenery.
I just love anything pretty and breathtaking. And yes, Harry Potter, The Raven by Edgar Allan Poe, Twilight Saga, Aroma Karsa and Perahu Kertas by Dee, 1Q84 by Haruki Murakami, Pulang and Laut Bercerita by Leila S. Chudori, the sound of rain, petricore, the sunset in busy city, the smell of salt water in ocean, the big-deep-breath at mountain’s peak are one of it.
Cat.
Because who doesn't like cats????

And these are things that will bring hell to me:

Any sour food.
Avocado. Well, fruit in general. I prefer vegetables to fruits.
Dog. Mungkin lebih ke… asing. Karena nggak familiar, jadi kalau ketemu langsung bawaannya takut. But pictures or videos about cute dogs are okay.
Intolerant, arrogant, self-centered, homophobe, islamophobe… you name it.
I just can’t stand with people who can’t put themself in other people’s shoes. This world is getting crazy because of them. So shoo. Mengacau di tempat lain sana. Jangan dekat-dekat.
Haters, in every possible form. I’d had enough of a negative vibe in my head. I don’t need any more from you.
Somone who use psychological term irresponsibly, such as self-diagnose or use it in a way for them to playing victim, or just randomly using it just because it's "happening" or "viral".

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Act III: The Principle

While we interact, semoga kamu bisa lakukan dan nggak lakukan hal-hal di bawah ini, ya. Ini sebenarnya sifatnya imbauan, bukan kewajiban. Tapi setiap aturan selalu ada konsekuensinya kalau dipatuhi dan tidak, kan?

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